This picture was taken during the summer of 2011. I had just spent an extended weekend in the Twin Cities with a friend and his family, fully enjoying my first time in the wonderful state of Minnesota. While we were in the suburbs for the most part, the scenery on the drive was unbelievable, an abundance of wilderness and winding roads before making our way to Minneapolis.
This snapshot in particular was taken on the way home at Devil’s Lake State Park in Baraboo, Wisconsin, which, as I have mentioned before, is one of my favorite places in the world. I love hiking the various trails and climbing up the rocky, mountain-like hills that cover the whole grounds. On sunny days like the one we experienced that day, you can see how clear the water is, which is a great reminder that you are in God’s beautiful country.
While I do a lot of thinking when I am in this element, I do some of my best thinking when I am in an environment that is less than ideal for me. The environment I’m speaking of for this particular piece was a house party. At this party, I was having a conversation with a friend who I have known for some time and we got on the topic of relationships. We talked about how scary it is to put everything into something when you are so unsure if the person will invest the same amount of time and effort. By taking the risk, you could get everything you ever wanted, but ,in the same breath, get to a point where it hurts so bad that it takes a while to recover. We also touched on how discouraging it can be to see two people who have a relationship that you considered to be great, the type of relationship you wanted for yourself one day, fall apart. You think to yourself, “If they didn’t make it, how the heck am I supposed to?”
After sitting on both topics for some time, I have my thoughts in line. The risk is something you have to take, because without it, you are exactly where you started. If you find the right person, you don’t need to worry about putting in more than the other because you will care enough about each other to meet half way. You will be open and honest all the time and will talk about things that are bothering you, along with the things you love about each other. Those who make it leave no stone un-turned.
As far as seeing what you considered to be the “ideal relationship” crumble; it happens. There is a reason for it and the couple obviously did not see eye to eye when it came to the things that were most important to them. The good news is that this doesn’t have to be you. You and your partner are in charge of your relationship, no one else. You just have to make sure that this person is someone who you care enough about to do anything for and is someone who will always keep the lines of communication open. Remember, keep no stone un-turned. As far as when you will find the person who will do this with you, it is different for everyone. The biggest mistake is to put a timeline on it. Don’t say you’re going to wait until a certain age to start looking again because you may miss a great opportunity. Things will happen when they happen, just be sure to always have your eyes open. He or she may be closer than you think.
Have faith and always keep your eyes open.