This picture was taken at the beginning of the month of December on the last bike ride I took. It seems like some of the great weather I experienced that day has carried over, because it is now the 27th and it’s darn near 50 degrees outside. I could be a fan of a winter like this.
This snapshot in particular was the last one I took on my ride that day, a trek which took me up and down Fairfield and Nippersink Road. The setting sun, tall, bare, lifeless-seeming trees, and the faintness of the power lines paint a portrait of life in that moment. One which I will never get back.
When I think about the concept of time, I often wonder how much of it I really waste or if I’m really wasting any of it at all? Think about it, each moment we have in this life we are given has a meaning. There is a reason you woke up this morning. There is a reason you decided to eat Cinnamon Toast Crunch for breakfast. There is a reason why you took another way home from a work. There is a reason you thought about the people you thought about today. There is a reason for everything you did, are doing, and have yet to do.
The great thing about this concept of reason is that it applies to everything, including the relationship you haven’t had yet. I think I can speak for many people when I say that there are those of us who desire to end up with our best friend, the one who will be there to support us in everything we do. This is a great thing to want and should be treated as such. The problem is that many of us are so desperate to find this, that we trick ourselves into believing we have found this, when in reality we are far from finding anything. We are so blinded by an idea, that we ignore everything we know to be true, including the thought “this may not be the person for me”.
On the flip side, the person you are with could be the one for you based on everything they are, but if you are unwilling to communicate and work through all the struggles of everyday life, you will never move forward. Isn’t that the goal? To move forward?
The saying goes “there are plenty of fish in the sea”, but I want to take that mantra a step further and add “just so long as you are in the right part of the ocean”. Sure, there are plenty of people out there who could be a really good fit for you, but the best fit will desire to travel through the stormy waters with you. They won’t be ashamed of their flaws and will welcome yours. They will desire to be better each day and encourage you on your journey to happiness. They will want to make sacrifices and appreciate you, and you will want to do those same things back. That is what you are looking for and you don’t want anything else, nor should you.
Whether you want to believe it or not, this person is out there for everyone. Just make sure to always keep your eyes open. You don’t want to miss everything you ever wanted because you were too busy looking for something else.