We live in a fast-paced society, one in which instant gratification is second nature. We want it and we want it now; what “it” is depends on the person. “It” can be a new house, a car, a vacation, a new job, a relationship, a fresh start, or an understanding/new found knowledge of something we are not so versed in. These things, tangible or intangible, burn deep within our souls and we will not let them go until they satisfy the itch we are trying to scratch.
The itches we experience lie deep within our being and like a bug bite or rash, will more than likely become irritated an infected if we go at them before they are ready. We often do go at them way too quickly and we end up with scars as a result. Some scars are there for a short period of time, while others will stick with us for the rest of our lives. They are marks that we cannot get rid of no matter how hard we try.
Life is a complex beast and we are going to end up with scars no matter what we do. We have to be risk-takers in many areas of our lives if we want to get anywhere and getting hurt is just part of the whole process. While hurt and pain is inevitable, our patience can make any suffering we experience worth it in the end. What do I mean by this? I’m saying that if we take our agenda and ego out of the equation and let things take their course, we are giving ourselves a fighting chance. If we understand that “right now” is not the right time for certain things, we set ourselves up in a more refined way.
If buying that new car or house would stretch your budget for the time being, pull back. Put some money away and make the purchase when you have the means to. There will still be plenty of cars and houses when you are ready to buy. If you are feeling burnt out and feel like an extended vacation would take away some of your stress, but it’s not in the budget, take a pass. Instead, opt for a nice, affordable weekend away where you can collect yourself and recharge. Save up and take that long trip when money isn’t so tight. If you’ve been single for what seems like forever and feel like a companion will ease your loneliness, kick those thoughts to the curb. Healthy relationships begin with two whole, content individuals, and jumping into something serious while you are neither will not end well. Spend time working on yourself and get out there when you know you are ready. If you want to pick up something new, don’t jump in with one foot. Dedicate time to the activity and jump in with two feet. You may stumble and fall at first, but having two feet fully immersed will allow for more firm footing as you pick yourself up.
The moral of the story here is to stay patient and realize that the best things in life happen when you give them time. You may not get what you want when you want it, but you will get what you need when you need it.