“Why”, our favorite question to ask as a little kid. You cannot go outside and play right now. Why? You cannot have dessert tonight. Why? No more television or video games until your homework is finished. Why? It seemed like no matter what statement an authoritative figure made towards us, we were always combatting anything said with a “why”. Some of us did it just to be that kid who questioned everything everyone said with no base whatsoever besides “I felt like it”. Others of us asked “why” because we really wanted to know the reasons behind what was keeping us from our happiness at the moment.
As we grow up and become adults, “why” continues to stay in our vocabulary for reason number two above. We really want to know the reasons behind what is keeping us from moving forward. We do not understand why we do not have more time to do what we love. We do not understand why we cannot find more time for those we care about or why the people we care about have little or no time for us. We do not understand why this thing or that thing did not work out, why we were late for that meeting, why our crush decided to choose someone else, or why we are so upset over something that really is not all that big of a deal.
“Why” is often referred to in a negative context and it will stay that way until we decide to change it. What can we do to turn this overwhelming negative into a positive? We can start by thinking about all the good things that have made us who we are. Why do I have such amazing people in my life? Because I have been blessed and have shown these people how much I care. Why do I have the talents I have? Because I have been gifted with special abilities and I have worked hard to keep them. Why am I in this spot in life? Because I am supposed to be here.
I have been struggling with this “Why” question a lot since I left my last job in late August. I have been working tirelessly over the past couple of months to try to make a new life and find a new career for myself and it has had its struggles. My days have been filled with emailing companies, handing out my resume’ to anyone who will take it, following up, doing phone interviews, going on in-person interviews, and a whole lot of waiting. There is nothing more frustrating than waiting on the job offer that was never coming and it would be really easy to lose all hope. While I have not found what I’m looking for, I know that I am exactly where I am supposed to be and I would not have been able to do what I have done without this time. I started writing again. I am inching closer and closer to getting my business off the ground. I have been available to help people. I have been able to spend more time with those I care about. Why am I here right now? Because I am supposed to be. The right things will happen exactly when they are meant to, so keep your head up and know that you are supposed to be exactly where you are too.
Enjoy the journey.