E.T.L

Do you ever have those days where you come home and do not feel like cooking? It may be due to the fact that you’re tired or not in the mood for anything in the fridge. Maybe you just need to get out and be around other people. You could just be feeling a certain way and desire to drown your sorrows in some good old fashioned calories. Some people never feel like cooking at all, but this is a separate issue entirely.

What you need to understand is that all of this, with the exception of maybe the last point, is okay. We all go through things that make us feel out of it and doing things to bring ourselves the smallest amount of a bright spot can be exactly what the doctor ordered. If you did not realize it already, this post is not about food. It is about keeping yourself balanced.

2017 has been a great year for Leah and I, as we have taken some awesome steps forward. Me moving my life over to Michigan, getting settled into our new home, planning and putting on a wedding, and merging our once separate lives together are just a few of the incredible positives we have to show for the hard work we have put in over the past year.

Despite all the positive steps we continue to make, we have been met with just as many hurdles. Between demanding school and work schedules, making just enough money to pay the bills every month, not being able to put anything away for our future right now, and feeling like we do not have time for what we would like to do, it can be hard to see the bright side of things. It can be difficult to make it out of funks like these, but it is important to do everything you can to find your way out. The simplest thing can give you the glimmer of hope you need.

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Turkey Sandwich; Boardwalk Subs- Grand Rapids,MI (Photo Credit: Ryan Magnuson)

Everything was put into perspective today right after I got home from work when we were in the middle of doing our “what’s for dinner” limbo. Not in the mood to make anything, we pondered where we could go, which was soon met with a “we need to make something at home” response by me. I was not thinking about my poor wife, who had been stuck in the house all day studying for her grad school final. I was not thinking that maybe we needed a dinner out to fill our stomachs and allow us to enjoy a short night away from home with good conversation. I was thinking about money, our finances, and all the food we bought at the grocery store a couple weeks ago, which are things I am not going to be able to take with me when I leave this place.

After really listening to what my wife was saying, I realized that wanting to eat out had little to do with not wanting to cook. She needed to get out of the house and we needed to forget about our lives for an hour. We could eat, talk, laugh, and not think about the work week or Wednesday’s final exam. We could just be us and enjoy a sandwich, which is exactly what we did. Guess what? We both feel a lot better now and I am not going to miss that $20 one bit.

When you start to feel a little unbalanced, make an effort to do things that can help you get back to neutral. It may be grabbing a quick bite to eat, going for a walk, working out, going for a drive, or something completely unrelated, just make sure you do something. I do not claim to have all the answers for leading a happy life (or any for that matter), but I do know that staying positive and doing things that bring you joy can sure get you on the right path. Keep on swimming! You are going to be just fine!

 

-R.M.

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