Do you ever wonder why things happen the way they do? Do you ever feel like you work your tail off and just cannot get ahead? It can be very difficult to picture how things could get better when you are in the midst of struggle, but in all honesty, they do. If you stop and think about it, it is in your struggle where you figure out who you are, what you are made of, and what you are truly living for. I think that uncovering these hidden treasures is worth all of the struggle, don’t you?
When you are a young adult in your early to mid-20’s (heck, even your early 30’s), struggle is basically part of your daily reality. You are starting to dive into a career or trying your best to figure out what you want to do with your life. Many of us millennials are broke as all get out and trying to pay off hefty college loans. We are frustrated at the fact that we cannot contribute to the economy by buying a house, new car, or investing in our own future. Don’t even get me started on finding someone or figuring out when the best time to have kids is. We allow society and the glorification of everyone else’s “best moments” (via social media) to influence how we view ourselves and our own timeline. Struggle is everywhere. We can always try our best to avoid it, but it will always find us. The sooner we learn how to handle it and view it in the right way (as a means for growth), the sooner we will come out the other side.
My biggest struggle is in the financial realm and it always has been. I have always found a way to do the things I am passionate about, which has never left me well off money-wise. Don’t get me wrong, I am really good with money and being responsible with it, I just have never had a lot of it to go around, which is where my dilemma lies. Now that I am out in the real world and have all these bills to pay (in addition to the costs of paying off school and a car), I am struggling more than I ever have. I don’t make the most at my current job, my wife is still in school getting her doctorate, and all we can really afford to do is pay our bills every month. We can’t put anything away, save for a house, or even afford to get decent benefits, which would be really nice to have considering my wife is in pain weekly due complications with her neck. Put simply, it fricken sucks!
I wish I could be a better provider and my struggle is rooted in wishing I could do more for my family right now. Why does it have to be like this? Why do things have to be so difficult? I wish I knew the answers to those questions and even more so, I wish things were better for us. Does it frustrate me? Of course. Am I trying to better our situation every single day? You bet. Would I trade this time for any other? Absolutely not!
Despite what my head says, my heart tells me that “future me” will be grateful for this time. This time will teach me more than almost anything else in my life and it is not until I get to where I am going that I will truly appreciate that. I need to keep my head up and my eyes forward. I need to keep my heart and mind open to what is going on now so I can learn from these experiences. Whatever you may be struggling with, I encourage you to do the same. Your future self with thank you for it.